Chantal Wiebe on Instagram posted this insightful and thought-provoking comment recently. "It's not always a smooth ride, friends. I sometimes let my
boys down. I sometimes holler
at them. I sometimes forget they
are just children. Tears fall and
words fail. But here's why I don't
share every ugly detail:
some things are meant to be
worked out in private moments.
While we are here together in this
little app, let's not confuse
authenticity for intimacy. Or well-
lived for well-liked, in the form of
twice-tapped little white hearts.
Because there is a difference.
And we should have no additional
reasons to put ourselves as women
in the public stocks with our self-
deprecation for company. We are
doing our best. And we are not
perfect, just #perfectlyenough."
Sometimes with social media, I feel a sense of 'damned if you do, damned if you don't'. Finding a comfortable spot between "keepin' it real" and maintaining privacy as a family can easily become more about trying to navigate the opinions of others, being we only show tiny pieces of our lives. But I believe your life is not my business, even if you post photos showing your life. A peek into your life is a privilege, certainly not my right. We can each have a voice and that's the beautiful balance in our differences. We can each contribute something to make social media worthwhile. I might seek parental wisdom from one person & fashion advice from another. And what if we internalized less opinions about one another's posts and instead just felt love? Isn't that what we're called to do? Extend grace and turn to Him for self-assurance. Rather than judge someone without all the information (because a photo or two a day is definitely not all the information), what if we just assumed others struggle and have insecurities and dysfunction and lose their temper (or maybe that's just me! ..ha!) and we overlooked those faults, cut each other some slack, and in that assumption of commonality, find peace in others' decision to share whatever they choose. We often judge others actions but we want others to judge our intentions. But shouldn't we view one another the way we want to be viewed and work to lift each other up? We're not perfect but perfectly enough, as @chantal_Weibe so eloquently stated in her post that really got me thinking on this whole topic of intimacy versus authenticity. We get to choose how we react to every situation. How awesome is that? Grace over hate. Love rather than judge. Read Chantal's post on her feed for more thoughts on this.) #perfectlyenough #graceoverhate