Do you ever have grumpy moments because of expectations you put on the people in your life? This is one of my biggest faults. For instance, there are times when I expect my husband to notice something and though I know it's silly to get disappointed, I do. Yet, I've noticed though how much more I get out of our relationship when I give him more. If I want him to compliment me, I find something positive to say to him. If I want to feel taken care of, I do my best to make him feel taken care of. This might be as mind-numbing as making sure the laundry is done over the weekend so he has plenty of clothes for his work week, but I know he appreciates it. This concept is relevant with our kids as well. Now, with kids I'm not referring to doing more of the mundane everyday stuff like laundry (though it's a necessary evil, isn't it?...ha!) but rather having more of a loving and gracious heart toward them. I've noticed the more patient and loving I am toward my children, the more patient and loving they are with me. Kids are like sponges and they seem to absorb whatever energy is swirling around the home. When there's tension and stress, even if they don't understand what it is, they seem to feel it even more than adults do and react to it. It's like a snowball effect and their grumpiness heightens our stress and we pass that back onto them. We so easily feed off of each other's moods.
As women I believe we have the power to set the tone in our home. Part of setting that tone is understanding what helps us feel more positive. For me, when I feel like our house is a mess I get grumpy. I need time in the morning before the kids get up to get a handle on my day. This doesn't always happen, but I'm aware that I function better when it does. When I carve out 'me' time to exercise and read my devotion, I feel like I'm able to give more to my family because I've had my time.
You only get out what you put in. This can be considered karma, what goes around comes around, you reap what you sow...and so on. Isn't it all the same thing though? Next time you're wanting more out of a situation, try giving more and see what happens. Check back with me and let me know your thoughts. I'd love to hear from you!
"Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults—unless, of course, you want the same treatment. Don’t condemn those who are down; that hardness can boomerang. Be easy on people; you’ll find life a lot easier. Give away your life; you’ll find life given back, but not merely given back—given back with bonus and blessing. Giving, not getting, is the way. Generosity begets generosity." Luke 6:38 MSG